We have all been there, maybe you are there right now. Down and out with no energy to crawl back out of the hole you are in. The obstacles seem insurmountable and your anxiety takes over your present mind. You feel inferior, your confidence has been beaten down and you can’t take much more before you know you will snap.
Then it happens.
Your cup overfills and you lash out over the smallest thing and then you begin to regret -you regret your words and actions. Something simple as the question “how are you today?” and you ignite. The wall has gone up and you have put up your defenses, you dedicate every ounce of your body to protecting that little bit of weakness that you feel you have. You react to protect that little bit of life you have left. The solution to your problem is simple and is there at all times.
Ask for help!
Recently I had accepted a new position at my office. This new position requires me to push my limits a little further and learn a bunch of new things. As I started to come across new and unfamiliar things to learn, I could feel anxiety starting to creep in and then self-doubt took root. I have been down this road before and I really don’t like the feeling. This is the messy side of growth and it requires me to set aside my ego. I have to stop worrying about what others think and then admit to myself that I don’t know what I am doing! I don’t know everything and I never will, that is life! I need to ask for help and I need keep asking until I understand.
Asking for help uses a lot less energy than dwelling in the anxiety that stems from your ego.
Once I realized the anxious hole I was going down, I reached out and asked for help. I opened up my vulnerability to put myself out there for someone to prop me back up. And like before when I set aside my ego, I got the support that I needed. This is why it is so important to surround yourself with selfless supporters and why it is even more important to be one!
Life will always have its ups and its downs and the quicker you can set aside your ego long enough to ask for and accept the help that you need, the quicker you will get back up from your downs. We are all here for each other, life is a complicated game and up to this point in your life, you would have never survived without the help of someone else. So why allow your ego to stop accepting that help now?
Ask and you shall receive, but react and you shall only grieve.