We just can’t seem to leave our lives alone. Just when things are going smooth, we dig to find something to improve upon. I get it, change is good, but to change for the sake of change is counter-productive. It really is that skill and balance of knowing when something needs to change versus when we believe it should be changed that can define our state of happiness.
For the past few weeks, I have been on the hunt for a new car. I wasn’t looking to replace a broken down or older car; I just wanted a new car. It didn’t take long before I had myself convinced that the 3-year-old vehicle I wanted to replace was past it’s prime. I spent way too much time convincing myself that I had a problem that wasn’t even there.
Sometimes it can be hard to appreciate what you already have. While it is nothing fancy, my current car is still in excellent shape, it runs great, and it serves my family well. I had gotten myself into a trap of discontent when there was no real reason why.
After some reflection, I found out why I was creating solutions to problems in my life that were never really there.
Turns out, I just wasn’t challenged.
I had a couple of ideas of things I wanted to try, but I was creating problems in other areas of my life to distract myself from the fear of trying something new. I didn’t need a new car, I don’t even want a new car. I was just running.
Growth in life comes from the challenges in life that we face. It doesn’t matter if we are successful or not from those challenges, we grow just by trying. Yet, when we get comfortable in life, we seek to avoid the disruption that the messy part of growth often brings. We spend so much time trying to find problems that aren’t there so that we can feel as though we are growing, but in effect, we are just keeping ourselves distracted.
Happiness comes from appreciating what you have, accepting what you can’t and avoiding the search for something that isn’t there.