What If…

Life is not easy for any of us. But what of that? We must have perseverance and above all confidence in ourselves. We must believe that we are gifted for something and that this thing must be attained. – Marie Curie

My son has a curious habit of always asking “What if?” when his imagination meets his curiosity. No matter how silly or serious his questions are I need to remain resolved in answering every one of his “What if?” situations to the best of my ability. As I reflect on this practice, I realize that as grown adults we also ask ourselves “What if?” many times during the course of a day. I know it is not good to dwell on the past, but sometimes we just can’t help it. The older we get, our “What if?” often become more serious, more deep, more unresolved. What if…

What if… I didn’t wake up today?

What if… I didn’t work out today?

What if… I didn’t say ‘I love you’ to my son and wife before we set off on our days?

What if… I skipped breakfast?

What if… I didn’t go to work today?

What if… I didn’t buy my morning coffee?

What if… I didn’t make a conscious effort to shake a bad mood?

What if…

What if… I didn’t go to lunch with my friends?

What if… I didn’t put in an honest day’s work?

What if… I didn’t mow my lawn?

What if… I didn’t spend time with my family?

What if… I didn’t brush my teeth?

What if… I didn’t go to bed on time?

Did any of my choices throughout my day make a difference in the world? Did they make a difference in my world?

What if… I tried harder today?

What if… I died today?

What if… I never existed?

Did I do enough to live? I did do enough to exist? Was I even present?

What if… I did more?

What if… I could go back?

What if…

4 thoughts on “What If…

  1. ‘What if’s’ are mostly linked to worry and anxiety in our adult life.Other times our curiosity propels us to ask ‘What if’ questions.I bet your son must make things very entertaining for you. I’d love to know one of his ‘What if’ questions. Children can be adorable with these sort of questions sometimes. 🙂

    1. For sure “What if’s” lead to anxiety if we dwell on them for too long, but they can also help us learn moving forward. Always a tricky balance. 🙂 My son often words his questions with “What if’s” instead of just asking how something works. Ex: “What if that car over there got pushed by that big truck and fell into the water?” instead of just asking outright if a car would float.

      1. Exactly! It is definetely about balance! Your son’s curiosity is adorable. When I used to nanny 5 years ago, the little girl I looked after would ask me the most akward questions in front of her Dad. ‘What if you were to marry my daddy? Do you think my mummy, daddy and you could all live in the same house?
        I am sure you can imagine the embarassment her poor dad felt!..I just laughed it off and told her that her daddy loves her mummy very much and that I loved my partner, so would definetely not be living in the same house or getting married! Kids are wonderful!

      2. They are! We could learn a lot from our kids, yet we often get impatient from their inexperience. My son has taught me so much over the years.

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