Dare To Compare

Be yourself, everyone else is taken – Unknown

The other night as I was going through my various social media channels, I started to get into an anxious and fixated state-of-mind. I began to compare myself and my accomplishments in life to those of others who I perceive as being ahead in the game of life. For a bit of time I battled with myself as my rising anxiety wanted to get the better of me, but after a few minutes I was able to overcome those intense feelings and snap myself out of it.

Phew…. close one!

Being able to identify when I am about to enter a nasty frame of mind has been one of my greatest achievements of late. Reminding myself of that achievement was the very thing that got me out of that mood. You see, as I began to compare myself to others, I began to devalue exactly what I have to offer. I began to question my career, my lifestyle and my place in this world. Those things really do not need to be questioned, especially when I am comparing me to someone else.

I believe I get into these spells because, for a brief moment I forget who I am. When I do this, I get lost and want to be like others and well, as we all know, this isn’t healthy. For the better part of the last 20 years during my life I tried being someone else, and I became a miserable mess. I am sure most people still get into these spells on occasion, but because I am so early in the rebuilding phase of my life, I tend to get into these spells quite often. That’s fine though, I am still learning who I am, what is important is that I get out of those moods fast before they consume me.

It is not easy to tell yourself to stop admiring others. It is not easy to truly appreciate what you have done so far in your life when you are in a moment of weakness. You have to cling to that one thing that you know you have done better than anyone else. I don’t care if it is your ability to tie a cherry stem into a bow with your tongue, you need to get back to that small victory and relive it again. When you can do that, then you will find yourself gaining more and more confidence in yourself and that confidence is what you need to carry on.

715 / 1000 KMs walked | 33 / 50 blog posts | 12 / 10 books read

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